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Your Parents’ Stuff – And What About Your Own?

Oh my! How we accumulate “stuff” throughout the years! What with the popularity of Hoarders and assessing our own “stuff-we-may-need” reserve, we can see it takes an aggressive approach to whittle down. Minimalist living is on the rise, and I am a fan. However, if you visited my home you would see a plethora of in-my-eyes-only treasures, and what-the-heck-are-you-thinking doohickies all around.

I had to fly to Florida to clean out my parents’ house when my mom moved back up here after being diagnosed with dementia. My folks weren’t hoarders, but there was still quite a bit of stuff to go through. I was thankful for their efforts to get rid of the unnecessary things and I want to do the same for my children. If you ever find yourself in this position, it’s hard work.

It seems no one wants old stuff anymore. Stuff that at one time meant something to your folks. You really have to harden your heart to throw things away that you know would be of no value to anyone else. I just had to do this within the last two months with my partner’s parents. They had very nice things, but after the estate sale… much of it remained. It wasn’t junk either.

“At least a half dozen times a year, families come to me and say: ‘What do we do with all this stuff?’” says financial adviser Holly Kylen of Kylen Financials in Lititz, Pa. The answer: lots of luck. Dining room tables and chairs, end tables and armoires (“brown” pieces) have become furniture non grata. Antiques are antiquated. “Old mahogany stuff from my great aunt’s house is basically worthless,” says Chris Fultz, co-owner of Nova Liquidation, in Luray, Va.

On PBS’s Antiques Roadshow, prices for certain types of period furniture have dropped so much that some episode reruns note current, lower estimated appraisals. And if you’re thinking your grown children will gladly accept your parents’ items, if only for sentimental reasons, you’re likely in for an unpleasant surprise.

“Young couples starting out don’t want the same things people used to have,” says Susan Devaney, president of NASMM and owner of The Mavins Group, a senior move manager in Westfield, N.J. “They’re not picking out formal china patterns anymore. I have three sons. They don’t want anything of mine. I totally get it.”

As luck would have it, I helped a friend of my pack and she had another friend helping also. That friend worked at a place called Household Goods, a non-profit run by an 80-year couple (who started it in their 40’s). They have grown to a massive warehouse now, where they allow those needing to set up house to come and shop for free! I took this info and ended up donating beautiful dishes, pots and pans, furniture etc., knowing that they were going to families in need. Finding a place like this is my #1 recommendation for situations like this, or to downsize your own home. A partner to this recommendation is “Don’t wait until you have to rush!” Bless people with things your not using and you will double your joy! There are many organizations who will gladly accept your treasures and doohickies. So give, donate and…..

Thrive! OK?

https://www.nextavenue.org/nobody-wants-parents-stuff/

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Best Places to Retire in the US

Hi Ladies! Have you wondered where the best places to retire in the US are? Some of us have choices of destination and others feel destined to a place they don’t want to be.  I hope if it’s the latter, you will fight to find a place of contentment and joy wherever you are. It seems there are many (as my son would put it) grumpy old people. Don’t be grumpy ladies. You’ve got to make up your mind to Thrive, OK? If you find yourself in a position to be flexible, here are top 5 states to retire.

Bankrate.com came out with a survey to determine the best places to retire. The winner? South Dakota! The loser? New York!

Best Places to Retire in the US

“With 10,000 people turning 65 each day, Bankrate.com based its ranking on seven categories that would impact a retiree’s decision to move (weighting in parentheses): cost of living (20%), taxes (20%), health care quality (15%), weather (15%), crime (10%), cultural vitality (10%) and well-being (10%).”

South Dakota came in as the best state for retirees, beating out Utah (2), Idaho (3), New Hampshire (4) and Florida (5).

“No one would think of South Dakota as a winner to retire. But if you look into it, you see how people there have very good social relationships, and feel a sense of purpose with the community,” said Bankrate.com analyst Taylor Tepper in an interview with Yahoo Finance.

 

“Residents also pay no personal income tax, and the median rent for a 1-bedroom apartment is $565! They savor their day-to-day lives, feel financially secure and have a strong sense of community,” said Tepper. “Residents in the other top states feel similarly. These attributes may better determine what makes for a satisfying retirement than, say, warm weather.” Maybe you could build a tiny house in one of the top states. This is a cool video of a retiring single mom who built one.

New York came in as the worst state to retire in, with New Mexico and Maryland tying for 2nd. Florida didn’t fare to well either because of the crime rate and a subpar rating for healthcare.

No matter where you go, make sure you remember The 10 Keys to Healthy Aging and…

Thrive! OK?  

https://www.yahoo.com/finance/news/new-york-worst-state-retire-south-dakota-best-122800463.html

 

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You Won’t Regret Investing in a Reclining Massage Chair!

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Hi Ladies! This is a picture of my reclining massage chair. I got it back in 2004 as a result of looking for a black leather chair to complete my living room decor. I saw an ad for a black leather massage chair and thought I’d at least take a look. It cost $800 (the chiropractic office would not negotiate). Here it is 2018 and I must say, “One of the best investments I’ve ever made!” I’ll be 62 in August, and find myself making a 15-minute visit to the chair a part of my early morning routine… I already use it when I have sore muscles, stress, back or neck pain etc.

There are so many benefits to owning a massage chair, especially at this time of our lives. To get the most benefit from massage, you should do it frequently. According to licensed massage therapist Jane Smith, people who have regular massages enjoy a wide variety of tangible health benefits. Continue reading…

Tips on a Good Night’s Sleep

Tips on a Good Night’s Sleep

tips on a good night's sleepPlease give me some tips on a good night’s sleep! Sleeping during menopause? No pun intended, but IT’S A DREAM! Getting a good night’s sleep can be refreshing and rejuvenating. I remember that feeling and would like it back. I know I’m not alone. People of all ages across the globe suffer from occasional to chronic insomnia.

6 Natural Ways to Improve Your Sleep

Insomnia is a condition that interrupts your ability to fall asleep or stay asleep. If you are suffering from insomnia, you may be desperate enough to turn to harsh medications. Sleep deprivation can make you do crazy things. So, before you become QVC’s favorite shopper, take a look at these 6 ways to help improve your sleep naturally.

It Is TIME to GET a COMFORTABLE BED!!

tips on a good night's sleepYou cannot afford another night of losing sleep because you hate your bed. I have a friend who has been complaining for years about how she got rid of her waterbed and hasn’t slept the same since. There really is no excuse to being uncomfortable in your bed. Sleep is WAY too important, especially at our age. We should be spending at least 1/3 of our day in bed. We should be waking up refreshed and rejuvenated and ready to meet the day with spirits high! Let’s make getting to the bottom of sleeplessness a priority. I’m giving you a link to DreamCloud, a SLEEP mattress with the highest reviews. It has a 365-day return policy, and free shipping back! Testing a bed for 5 minutes in a store is not enough to know if it is the right bed. If you know your bed is the reason you wake up too early, too tired, too achy…take a look at the DreamCloud Luxury Hybrid Mattress.

 

Eliminate Caffeine

tips on a good night's sleepThe morning cup of coffee seems to be a staple beverage for many people. However, caffeine is not just in coffee. Caffeine can be hiding in the cola you drink, the tea, and even some of the foods you eat. While eliminating caffeine out of your diet 100% may not be possible, try to limit your consumption of caffeine to the mornings only. Prevention Magazine tells us that ingesting caffeine, even 6 hours before bedtime, can disrupt sleep.

Exercise

Not only does exercise help you maintain a healthy body weight and better mental outlook, but a Sleep Foundation study found that those who exercised were less sleepy during the day and slept better at night.

While a new exercise routine may leave you a little tired at first, regular exercise will give you more energy and help you fall asleep at bedtime. This may have to do with the chemicals released by the body when you exercise. The neurotransmitters released by the brain during exercise have all sorts of beneficial properties and improved sleep is one of them.

Meditate

Meditation has a restorative effect on the brain. There are all sorts of benefits that meditation can have for a person. Many of the benefits of meditation include reduced stress and a better ability to cope with difficult issues in one’s life.

tips on a good night's sleepMeditation is also great for insomnia. A Harvard study found that mindful meditation helped combat insomnia. It invokes a relaxation response in those who participate helping them relax enough to fall asleep quickly and stay asleep through the night. If you are not familiar with how to meditate there are many guided meditation audio programs that you can buy or check out from your library. Many (including myself) have had success with Wholetones 2 SLEEP. Read about it at this link and see if it is a fit for you.

Sleep Hygiene

Sleep hygiene is a practice to help you sleep better at night. It has to do with environmental cues. Alaska Sleep notes that these environmental cues should be taken into consideration if you aren’t sleeping.

  • Use the bedroom for sex and sleep only
  • No electronics
  • Keep the room dark and quiet
  • Keep your room cool
  • Have a good mattress
  • Set your alarm clock away from your bed

Get Up at the Same Time Every Morning

tips on a good night's sleepGetting up at the same time every day and avoiding naps helps your body follow a circadian rhythm. According to Verywell we need this to sleep well at night.  There are two really important elements to this step.

  1. Stop hitting the snooze and train yourself to get up at the same time every day. If you hit the snooze button once or twice (or 6 times), you are not really training yourself to get up at the same time every day. If you know you do not need to get up until 7:30, stop setting your alarm for 7. Save yourself the 30 minutes of interrupted sleep and set the alarm for 7:30, get up the first time it rings.
  2. NO NAPS. If you are not used to getting up in the morning, then this may be the hard part for you. Napping can throw you off for sleeping at night because you simply are not tired enough to get to bed on time. Skip the nap (and the caffeine), and stay up so that you can get a good night’s sleep.

Now you have an arsenal of information that should help you fall asleep faster at night. Remember, finding what works well for you may take some playing around. So, if you don’t get it right the first night or two don’t give up.

These sleep strategies are proven to work. They just take time, usually 2-3 weeks. So ladies, give these tips on a good night’s sleep a try, sleep soundly and…

Thrive! OK?

tips on a good night's sleep

 

Spiritual Healing Music – Wholetones Healing Music

spiritual healing musicSpiritual Healing Music

The power of spiritual healing music cannot be denied. From the time we were in our mother’s womb, music has had an impact on our lives. According to Livestrong.com, a baby begins to hear sounds in the mother’s womb at 16-17 weeks. At 26 weeks, its heartbeat speeds up upon hearing sounds; and at 33 weeks, babies in the womb have been shown breathing in beat to the music. There haven’t been enough studies to affirm the positive effects of music in the womb; but it is safe to say that hanging out with your baby, listening to tunes is just as beneficial as doing it after birth.

In contrast, the power of spiritual healing music CAN be affirmed. “The highest goal of music is to connect one’s soul to their Divine Nature, not entertainment.” -Pythagoras (569-475 BC) There are times in our lives when we need a spiritual connection…something or someone that can touch us deep in our soul. We all long for this, at some times more than others. If you take a moment, I’m sure you can think of a time when a certain song touched you deeply …deep enough to bring you to tears. Likewise, has a certain song brought you to uncontrollable laughter. Chicken Dance anyone? Continue reading…

Exercise Your Mental Health – 4 Practices to Enhance Your Well-being

Exercise Your Mental Health – 4 Practices to Enhance Your Well-being

exercise your mental healthExercise your mental health? More exercise? Noooo! Don’t make me! OK… maybe you’re not as resistant to the word exercise as I am. I was in the army in my younger days, and my attitude toward exercise has never quite been the same. I’m paying more attention now. After all, I’m 61 and staring down at the belly fat…ugh! But this is about mental health exercise right? Continue reading…

The Best Jobs for Women Over 50

Let’s take a look at some of the best jobs for women over 50. Changing your career path at 50 can be scary. Knowing some of your options can reduce the fear. Whether you lost a job or you’re interested in changing careers, there are a number of great jobs that you can explore. Here are some of the best jobs for women over 50. Please comment below with suggestions of your own.

the best jobs for women over 50Financial Advisor

The call for financial advisors is extensive today. Many women who are interested in finance and guiding people financially, could have a fantastic career in this field. Around 1/5 of financial advisors are currently self-employed. This means that becoming a financial advisor could be a work from home position. Continue reading…

Aging and Diabetes – Some Facts That May Help

aging and diabetesAging and Diabetes

Hello Ladies! I realize diabetes is a disease that affects so many of us. Whether it is our own personal battle or watching a loved one deal with it, it is a heavy load to bear. Aging and Diabetes is an article which shares some facts that may help.

To begin with, frequent urination, persistent thirst, and lethargy are warning signs of diabetes. However, they are often seen as signs of just growing old too! Many older individuals may remain undiagnosed diabetics for years (as they see their symptoms as just a part of growing old) until their diabetic symptoms become worse.

The problem is that irreparable but avoidable damage may have already occurred in some parts of the body. Accurate and early diagnosis of type two diabetes will be the greatest single factor in reducing the impact of its debilitating symptoms.

Here are some of the health issues that diabetics face, especially as they age. Continue reading…

Women Dating Older Men – Even Women Over 50?

Wowomen dating older menmen dating older men has caused many an opinion to be voiced throughout the ages. Dating оldеr mеn can be а great experience, аnd it соmеѕ wіth perks уоu mау not hаvе thought of. Of соurѕе, thеrе’ѕ ѕоmеthіng rоmаntіс, аllurіng аnd even reassuring аbоut dаtіng a mаn who’s quite a bit older thаn уоu. Thеѕе mеn tend tо bе mоrе well-established аnd соurtеоuѕ; and for the most part, thеу’rе chivalrous and grounded.

Straightforward and аѕѕеrtіvе, оldеr mеn act wіth іntеntіоn аnd focus bесаuѕе thеу’rе uѕuаllу buѕу lіvіng thriving lіvеѕ with great jоbѕ thеу’rе passionate about, or retired lives they’re happy with. They’ve ѕреnt enough time in the dating world to know еxасtlу whаt they like and whаt turns them off. Yоu’ll never bе іn an unsure space оr grау аrеа dating аn оldеr mаn bесаuѕе thеу have neither the time nоr thе inclination tо рlау games. Continue reading…

How To Reduce Wrinkles Around the Eyes – Anti-aging Skin Care

Hi Ladies! One of the most disheartening things I had to face after 50 (even 40) were the wrinkles. I’d wake up some days, look in the mirror and think, “Seriously?!” If you want to know how to reduce wrinkles around the eyes and other areas on your sweet self, read on.

How to Reduce Wrinkles Around the Eyes

 how to reduce wrinkles around the eyes

Our Skin as We Age

There are several factors that affect the quality of our skin as we grow older.  Some of these factors are beyond our control, such as our chronological or actual age and genetics. But the good news is, some aspects are within our power to change or influence.

Lifestyle and diet are the major significant influencing factors. Even so, before you make any changes for the sake of your skin health and appearance, it pays to understand the aging process of your skin. Continue reading…